28 October 2011

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India Increase in Wife Sharing in Villages another sign showing need to save Girl Child

India Increase in Wife Sharing in Villages another sign showing need to save Girl Child

BAGHPAT, India –

When Munni arrived in this fertile, sugarcane-growing region of north India as a young bride years ago, little did she imagine she would be forced into having sex and bearing children with her husband's two brothers who had failed to find wives.

"My husband and his parents said I had to share myself with his brothers," said the woman in her mid-40s, dressed in a yellow sari, sitting in a village community centre in Baghpat district in the northern state of Uttar Pradesh.

"They took me whenever they wanted -- day or night. When I resisted, they beat me with anything at hand," said Munni, who had managed to leave her home after three months only on the pretext of visiting a doctor.

"Sometimes they threw me out and made me sleep outside or they poured kerosene over me and burned me."

Such cases are rarely reported to police because women in these communities are seldom allowed outside the home unaccompanied, and the crimes carry deep stigma for the victims. So there may be many more women like Munni in the mud-hut villages of the area.

Munni, who has three sons from her husband and his brothers, has not filed a police complaint either.

From Olden times Indian families prefer the boy over girl and today also its same families want a boy not a girl.

Result is less and less girls and more boys , few villages have already because the villages where there is no female in a village.

In India in cities few families give equal rights to girl child but in cities also parents prefer a boy over girl and boy has no restrictions but they got many restrictions for the girls.

In cities girls get freedom but in villages like this females cover their complete body in presence of males, they are not allowed to go outside alone or confined within their home and are just considered as child giving machine who can cook for the family.

On other side village males enjoy everything.

According to India's 2011 census, there are only 858 women to every 1,000 men in Baghpat district, compared to the national sex ratio of 940.

"In every village, there are at least five or six bachelors who can't find a wife. In some, there are up to three or four unmarried men in one family. It's a serious problem," says Shri Chand, 75, a retired police constable.

"Everything is hush, hush. No one openly admits it, but we all know what is going on. Some families buy brides from other parts of the country, while others have one daughter-in-law living with many unwedded brothers."

Women from other regions such as the states of Jharkhand and West Bengal speak of how their poor families were paid sums of as little as 15,000 rupees ($300) by middle-men and brought here to wed into a different culture, language and way of life.

"It was hard at first, there was so much to learn and I didn't understand anything. I thought I was here to play," said Sabita Singh, 25, who was brought from a village in West Bengal at the age of 14 to marry her husband, 19 years her elder.

"I've got used to it," she says holding her third child in her lap. "I miss my freedom."

Such exploitation of women is illegal in India, but many of these crimes are gradually becoming acceptable among such close-knit communities because the victims are afraid to speak out and neighbours unwilling to interfere.


Despite laws making pre-natal gender tests illegal, India's 2011 census indicated that efforts to curb female foeticide have been futile.

A May study in the British medical journal Lancet found that up to 12 million Indian girls were aborted over the last three decades -- resulting in a skewed child sex ratio of 914 girls to every 1,000 boys in 2011 compared with 962 in 1981.

Daughters are seen as a liability, for whom families have to pay substantial wedding dowries. Protecting their chastity is a major concern as instances of pre-marital sex are seen to bring shame and dishonour on families.

To Solve this problem again India needs to reform our laws and make them very strict so strict that a doctor should wet his pants if he thinks about aborting that is murdering a girl child.

Doctors who abort girl child a healthy girl child on the request on parents who want a boy should be hanged and everyone should be charged for the murder of a girl child.

Today nothing happens, laws are on paper, criminals get caught they get the bail
and start to live their lives happily just like nothing happened without any fear of future punishment.

Punishment should be such that if criminal is found he should forget his sleep day and night punishment should haunt him follow him everywhere.

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"Wife-sharing" haunts Indian villages as girls decline



dr.antony October 28, 2011  

That is hard to believe if it hadnt come from you.
We call ourselves developing nation. We send rockets to the skies and missions to moon.
Just see where we stand!

deeps October 29, 2011  

Read the news somewhere….well,wife-sharing isn’t a new thing right? I guess it s been there from a long time….but whatever maybe the case, atrocities against girl/women should be curbed and stopped for the good of everyone and to make human life possible… and for the simple reason that it s not men’s world alone….

Kirtivasan Ganesan October 29, 2011  

Shameless men share their wife with others.
But today modern woman threaten and challenge men to wife swapping. This is not good either.

sm,  October 29, 2011  


Renu October 29, 2011  

see the tragedy that one one side girl foetus is killed, or if there are more girls they are neglected, and if they are less, even then girls only suffer..what does it mean?.is it their fate only to suffer whatevr the outcome?

SM October 29, 2011  


you raised valid points. less then suffer and if more then suffer.

Anonymous,  November 02, 2011  

God helps those who help themselves!!! Women in India do not want to fight for their rights. I asked few ladies other days what they think of women reservation bill and they said they have no idea!! How poorly educated Indian women are? If you look at the census the sex ratio of age between 0-5 is even less then what is in adult today. Think what will happen 25 years down the line? It is time that the pendulum moves towards women from male domination. All rights of managing money to administration to authorities should be shifted towards women. I know males will not accept it, but this is the only way for survival of human being. Physical safety of women should be govt's priority. Even the women in the parliament are not in favour of women's bill?? what a attitude?? How can we help them..I feel frustrated.

SM November 02, 2011  


females should fight for their rights

Anonymous,  April 29, 2012  

That is horrible. I believe something has to be done about it. Yes God does help those who help themselves, but we are to be Jesus in this world. He spoke up for us in our times of need, now it's our turn to speak up for people without a voice.

I don't believe people should be killed because then you're doing what you're against. However if you help the women, you're helping the men, too. Jesus said "whatever you do to the least of my people, that you're doing to me" So yes it's our job protect these women and in essence not let our Lord and savior get abused and raped.